Taking care of your own DNA is something that even the most primitive life forms do. Shouldn't humans have a higher goal in life than that of bacteria?
When those who claim to care so much about you won't life a finger to support your most basic human rights, you realize what family is really good for.
Family is good for gossiping and talking about you behind your back.
Family is good for telling you how to live and how to think instead of trying to understand you. Most of them need to examine their own lives before they start judging others.
My closest relatives are good for sitting on a couch and watching propaganda on the TV but not good for supporting causes or standing for something. I guess they think we're living in a utopia and that standing up for causes is no longer needed.
When I see relatives verbally and physically abusing their children and making parenting decisions that I strongly disagree with, I'm not willing to keep on tolerating and accepting that, but my options are very limited according to the norms of this society, so I've had nothing more to do with those relatives who chose abuse for their children and dismissed my concerns.
It seem that some folks only have kids so they can have someone to boss around and exercise their power motive upon.
Some citizens get disowned or shunned by family members because they love someone that today's society disapproves of, when the family members are the ones who should be disowned for being bigots, for being mentally lazy, for supporting hate and discrimination, etc.
Reproducing is not a noble act. Any bacterium can do that. Reproducing is not a selfless or altruistic act.
I don't owe anything to people just because we share some DNA.
My true family is not the people who share some DNA. My real family is the people who support my rights.
For many reasons, family will hold you back if you're not careful.
Don't feel hurt when you realize that family doesn't really care about you or your dreams. Feel liberated that they need waste no more of your time.
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." ‐ MLK
Like fairweather friends, my relatives don't want to get involved in any controversy. They'll just let me fight for justice and receive death threats by myself. That's my fairweather family.
"He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it." ‐ MLK
My relatives don't just passively accept evil, they actively and knowingly support and finance the juggernaut that destroys lives and oppresses me and threatens to destroy my own life if I step out of line too far. They don't seem to mind supporting that, but they won't support my rights.
And his mother and his brothers came, and standing outside they sent to him and called him. And a crowd was sitting around him, and they said to him, "Your mother and your brothers are outside, seeking you." And he answered them, "Who are my mother and my brothers?" And looking about at those who sat around him, he said, "Here are my mother and my brothers! For whoever does the will of God, he is my brother and sister and mother."
If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
©2019 Ron Spain